I am so glad to know of this book. What a remarkable gift to the world. I admit I’m a little embarrassed to be reviewing a book called “Good Sex.” But that’s part of the point, isn’t it? We have to get behind much of the shame and misinformation and guilt surrounding this topic, and bring it out into the light where it can be normalized as one beautiful part of life. We have to take sex more seriously, but we also have to take it less seriously.This book is so many things. It is part practical resource, part memoir, part inspirational manual. It is about sex, but it is about so much more than sex too. It is about relationships, it is about coming to know yourself and coming to know others. Most of all, it is about using mindful sex (and relationships, love, everything that can surround sex) as part of the path to oneness, universality, and the spiritual journey.Think about how rare that perspective is. We get so many mixed messages from the broader culture about sex. On the one hand, women especially get many messages that sex is dirty, base, and somehow bad. On the other hand, we get other subtle and not so subtle messages that the *only* thing that is important is sex, and even messages that our worth (and our power) is basically dependent on our capacity to be sexy, desirable, and enthralling. Pretty messed up.Unfortunately we also sometimes get some unhelpful messages about sex from the spiritual growth community. The author points out, “Sex is such a big part of being human, yet it is often ignored in discussions of spiritual practice and awakening.” I so agree. When it is not ignored, it is sometimes seen as a something to get beyond, some sort of roadblock, or some sort of lesser experience. Hardly ever do you ever hear about how sex can be an integral part of the spiritual journey, a tool that can and should be used wisely and mindfully. That is the gift of this book.From the author’s perspective, good sex is mindful sex, sex that can be approached with perspective-taking and a certain amount of lightness. That doesn’t just mean the act itself, but everything leading up to it and beyond it. It is about incorporating meditative practices and mindfulness in every aspect. It is about how when you approach sex and relationships with mindfulness, you can unlock amazing experiences that more deeply connect you to other people and to yourself. It is a way to learn about yourself and others, a way to experience things more deeply, and a way to further your journey as a human being. And yes, as the author points out, when you do this, it often results in incredibly pleasurable, ecstatic experiences. But though this is nice (one kind of “good sex”) it is not really the ultimate point (if I read the author correctly).This book is jam-packed with helpful resources. It is also a generous memoir. (The author illustrates her points partly by sharing her own experiences and growth in this area.) This book is for everybody, but I personally also see it as a profoundly feminist book (my words, not the author’s). I am speaking to the fact that partly because of the history of patriarchy, sex as a spiritual vehicle has been marginalized or totally absent in many different spiritual and religious traditions. It’s time we remedied that. This book is one step in that direction.