I've had particular fetishes since before I hit puberty some 20 years ago. I've struggled all my life to ignore them and make them go away. After reading this, I saw myself differently. Psychologically these are part of me, and denying their existence in me is denying myself. I still don't indulge in my fetishes more than I used to, but I have come to terms with myself and accepted who I am. This book contains not just an overview of most of the fetishes out there, but some of the deeper meaning and reason behind the. The chapters on how/why we have fetishes were most impressive to me. Having an eloquent well written book to point my wife to helped me explain how I feel. She understands me better as well.